Seven Guidelines for Answering Children’s Questions about Divorce
Why did you and Daddy get divorced? Why don’t you love Mommy anymore? Daddy said it was your fault that you got divorced. What did you do? My friend said that Mommy had an affair. Is that true? Co-parents can get baffled about how to answer these kinds of questions....
The Irony of Fighting Over “Children’s Best Interests”
Co-parents often fight over what is in the children’s best interest. People throw around the phrase “in the best interest of the child” as if it an absolute, concrete, set in stone thing. It usually isn’t. Co-parents think that their idea of what is in the best...
Co-Parents! Gain Power By Letting Go!
Excerpt from “An Unexpected Journey: The Road to Power and Wisdom in Divorced Co-Parenting” Imagine that you have a given amount of energy to expend in a day–let’s say 1000 units of energy. Knowing that you have a finite amount, you would want to...
Difficult Co-parent? Be A Hero!
You started out with good intentions. You partnered with someone. You decided to walk the path of parenthood, and you intended for it all to be good and right. And then things fell apart. You didn’t know how to fix it or you recognized that it wasn’t fixable. And then...
Co-Parenting, Emotions and the Brain
Co-parenting, especially when there is conflict, is very emotional. Often, if not always, co-parents try to resolve issues when they’re in emotionally reactive states, and that is almost always a set-up for disaster. WATCH THE VIDEO! You see, when we are in...
Connection: 4 Reasons It’s Important, 4 Reasons It’s Difficult, 4 Ways to Cultivate It
Connection is incredibly important to healthy development in children. What is connection? Connection is being not just physically present, but emotionally present. Connection is putting yourself into their experience; imagining what it’s like to be them. Connection...
Wise Parenting: 5 Ways to Use Mindfulness
We all want to be wise parents, but parenting is emotional business and if your emotions are out of control, you will be anything but wise. Some parents struggle with challenging children. Divorced parents may struggle with challenging co-parents, or both. These...
Co-Parents: Beware of the Negativity Bias
Our brains have what’s called a negativity bias. That is, our brains are much more likely to “take in” negative experience than positive experience. Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson says that our brains are like velcro for negative experience and like teflon for positive...
Frustrated By A Disneyland Co-Parent?
10 Things to Think About
A common complaint among co-parents is that the other parent is a “Disneyland” parent. A Disneyland parent refers to a parent who is seen as indulging children with gifts and vacations, without taking the day to day parenting responsibility. Having a Disneyland...
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I am Alisa Jaffe Holleron, the creator/author of An Unexpected Journey book, classes and professional workshops. I hope you will explore my material, purchase a book, come to a class, or if you are a professional, come to a workshop, and learn about the work that I am proud to say has helped many many divorced co-parents find power and wisdom in very difficult circumstances. I look forward to serving you!