by Alisa | October 11, 2018 | Co-Parenting Blog
Excerpt from “An Unexpected Journey: The Road to Power and Wisdom in Divorced Co-Parenting” Imagine that you have a given amount of energy to expend in a day–let’s say 1000 units of energy. Knowing that you have a finite amount, you would want to...
by Alisa | April 18, 2018 | Co-Parenting Blog
You started out with good intentions. You partnered with someone. You decided to walk the path of parenthood, and you intended for it all to be good and right. And then things fell apart. You didn’t know how to fix it or you recognized that it wasn’t fixable. And then...
by Alisa | March 4, 2018 | Co-Parenting Blog
Co-parenting, especially when there is conflict, is very emotional. Often, if not always, co-parents try to resolve issues when they’re in emotionally reactive states, and that is almost always a set-up for disaster. WATCH THE VIDEO! You see, when we are in...
by Alisa | January 31, 2018 | Inspiration for all Parents
Connection is incredibly important to healthy development in children. What is connection? Connection is being not just physically present, but emotionally present. Connection is putting yourself into their experience; imagining what it’s like to be them. Connection...
by Alisa | October 19, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog, Inspiration for all Parents
We all want to be wise parents, but parenting is emotional business and if your emotions are out of control, you will be anything but wise. Some parents struggle with challenging children. Divorced parents may struggle with challenging co-parents, or both. These...
by Alisa | September 22, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog
Our brains have what’s called a negativity bias. That is, our brains are much more likely to “take in” negative experience than positive experience. Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson says that our brains are like velcro for negative experience and like teflon for positive...
by Alisa | August 18, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog
A common complaint among co-parents is that the other parent is a “Disneyland” parent. A Disneyland parent refers to a parent who is seen as indulging children with gifts and vacations, without taking the day to day parenting responsibility. Having a Disneyland...
by Alisa | July 28, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog
It can be difficult, if not devastating, to spend time away from our children. We bring children into this world expecting to spend time with them, to be with them every day. We expect to eat dinner with them, to hear about their day, to read to them before they go to...
by Alisa | June 16, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog
Adult children of divorce have a keen perspective. Divorced co-parents would be wise to look to them as a resource. This is a compilation of bits of stories people have told me over the years about their experiences as children of divorced parents, along with my...
by Alisa | May 18, 2017 | Co-Parenting Blog
Are you frustrated by the behavior of your co-parent? Have you tried every which way to get them to see things differently, or to behave better? Wouldn’t it be grand if you could get them to change? The reality is that you can’t change anyone. People change...
