A Therapist's Guide to Difficult Divorced Co-Parenting


What does this class contain?

  • All videos and readings contained in the online co-parenting class  “Finding Power and Wisdom in Difficult Divorced Co-Parenting.” 
  • A unique clinical approach to divorced co-parenting that you can incorporate into your work.
  • Exercises that you can incorporate into your client sessions.
  • Resources for further inquiry

What does this class focus on?

1. Working with emotionally reactive states

When co-parents are in emotionally reactive states they often do things that unintentionally work against their own best interests and the best interests of their children.  This curriculum provides a framework for understanding co-parents: both their internal struggles and the actions they take when they are distressed. It also provides an effective method for teaching clients about emotional reactivity and techniques for working one’s way out of these states. This includes MINDFULNESS, a skill that is proven to be extraordinarily effective at working with emotional regulation.

2. Assisting co-parents in creating realistic expectations and goals.   

Co-parents are often given the message that in order for their children to be happy, they have to learn how to cooperate with each other. For many co-parents that is simply not a reality.  If co-parents think the only road to happiness for their children is cooperative co-parenting, they will stay hooked into trying to change their co-parent. This class will teach you how to help clients understand what they can and can’t control, how to let go of what can’t be controlled and how to redirect their energy into productive action.

3. Assisting co-parents in understanding what contributes to children’s mental health

When co-parents are in the throes of emotional reactivity, it may be difficult to distinguish their own needs from the needs of their children. This class focuses on what the latest research tells us about how to raise well-adjusted children. It emphasizes building a strong base of attunement, connection and compassion, and focuses on understanding the impact of conflict and emotional distress on children.

4. Cultivating joy and positivity

Intense states of fear and anxiety can cause co-parents to lose their ability to be joyful and positive. This class gives you simple and effective tools for helping co-parents understand the way their children are affected by their emotional states, and for cultivating joy and positivity.

Yes, you will be a more effective professional.

What professionals have said about this class:

"Very valuable approach and greatly enhanced my understanding of applying theory to practice."

“The class exceeded my expectations.”

“I was completely satisfied. I found the teachings on disengaging from emotional reactivity via mindfulness, and moving toward empathy very valuable.”

“I appreciated the practical ways to teach clients how to understand emotional reactivity and reduce it.”

“Excellent approach, seminal thinking.”

“I feel so much better equipped to worked with divorced co-parents.”

Online Class Price: $79.99

Class objectives

  1. Develop understanding of and compassion for divorced co-parents “bad behavior.”
  2. Develop an understanding of the following concepts: Core and Secondary Desires, Reactive and Grounded Desires, Emotional Reactivity, Mindfulness
  3. Develop a way to assist clients in clarifying their core desires.
  4. Develop an understanding of how emotionally reactive states cause divorced co-parents inadvertently work against their core own desires.
  5. Develop an understanding of what causes emotionally reactive states.
  6. Develop an understanding of the role of powerlessness, fear and shame  in ongoing conflict and anger.
  7. Develop practical skills for teaching clients about the underlying causes of emotional reactivity (including shame and fear) and how to move out of those states
  8. Develop skills for assisting clients in understanding the healing power of grief
  9. Develop practical ways to assist clients in understanding the most recent research on child development and the implications of this knowledge on their co-parenting situations.
  10. Develop practical skills to assist clients in understanding the impact of conflict on children, and skills for attending to the emotional needs of children in divorce situations
  11. Develop a usable set of skills to assist clients in cultivating compassion for their ex-spouses.
  12. Develop skills for assisting clients in cultivating power and wisdom.
  13. Develop skills for helping clients cultivate joy and positivity.