Co-Parents! Gain Power By Letting Go!
Excerpt from “An Unexpected Journey: The Road to Power and Wisdom in Divorced Co-Parenting”Imagine that you have a given amount of energy to expend in a day–let’s say 1000 units of energy. Knowing that you have a finite amount, you would want to make...
Uncooperative Co-parent? Be A Hero!
You started out with good intentions. You partnered with someone. You decided to walk the path of parenthood, and you intended for it all to be good and right. And then things fell apart. You didn’t know how to fix it or you recognized that it wasn’t fixable. You...
Co-Parenting, Emotions and the Brain
Co-parenting, especially when there is conflict, is very emotional. Often, if not always, co-parents try to resolve issues when they’re in emotionally reactive states, and that is almost always a set-up for disaster. WATCH THE VIDEO! You see, when we are in...
Connection: 4 Reasons It’s Important, 4 Reasons It’s Difficult, 4 Ways to Cultivate It
What is connection? Connection is being not just physically present, but emotionally present. Connection is putting yourself into a child’s experience; imagining what it’s like to be them. Connection is enjoying, savoring, being grateful for being in their...
Wise Parenting: 5 Ways to Use Mindfulness
We all want to be wise parents, but parenting is emotional business and if your emotions are out of control, you will be anything but wise. Some parents struggle with challenging children. Divorced parents may struggle with challenging co-parents, or both. These...
Co-Parents: Beware of the Negativity Bias
Our brains have what’s called a negativity bias. That is, our brains are much more likely to “take in” negative experience than positive experience. Neuropsychologist Rick Hanson says that our brains are like velcro for negative experience and like teflon for positive...
Frustrated By A Disneyland Co-Parent?
10 Things to Think About
“Disneyland co-parent” is the term that has been used to describe a divorced co-parent who indulges their children with gifts and vacations, without taking the day to day parenting responsibility. If you have a Disneyland co-parent, it is likely to cause...
Co-Parenting and the Pain of Spending Time Away from Children
It can be difficult, if not devastating, to spend time away from our children. We bring children into this world expecting to spend time with them, to be with them every day. We expect to eat dinner with them, to hear about their day, to read to them before they go to...
How Will Your Children Remember Your Co-Parenting?
Adult children of divorce have a keen perspective. Divorced co-parents would be wise to look to them as a resource. This is a compilation of bits of stories people have told me over the years about their experiences as children of divorced parents, along with my...Life-Changing Co-Parenting Book
Welcome to my Blog
I am Alisa Jaffe Holleron, the creator/author of An Unexpected Journey book, classes and professional workshops. I hope you will explore my material, purchase a book, come to a class, or if you are a professional, come to a workshop, and learn about the work that I am proud to say has helped many many divorced co-parents find power and wisdom in very difficult circumstances. I look forward to serving you!